Sunday, 27 January 2013

January 28, 2013

1. MAKING ARRANGEMENTS FOR CONTACT

1.1 In 2006, researchers at Newcastle University were commissioned by the Scottish Government to conduct a study investigating the nature and impact of court actions in Scotland in respect of contact with children. The study was carried out between 2007 and 2009, and this report details the background, methodology, findings and conclusions of that research.

January 27, 2013

Listening to Fathers - Men’s Experience of
Child Protection in Central Scotland.

By Nick Smithers, (Fathers’ Worker, Circle November 2012)

Read More from the link below:-

(http://www.circlescotland.org/SharedFiles/Download.aspx?pageid=20&mid=40&fileid=12)

Friday, 18 January 2013

The Agony of British Fathers!

January 19, 2013

By one of systematically-discriminated British Dad,

Let me ask you,

You British mountains and gorges,

Sky, horizon, rain and clouds,

Majestic thunder and beautiful snow,

Every animal, habitat and other,

If you all could speak out the hidden story,

Of the British father's endless agony,

And the British law enforcers’ agreements

To deprive the rights of fathers,

Piling on to the children’s sufferings,

Unnecessarily inflicting on them endless pains,

In courts established to safeguard their welfare,

Turning blind eyes to clear realities

Unfolding in front of their eyes,

Choosing total obliviousness,

Focusing on embellished stories,

Denying the glaring truth,

And swallowing utter lies,

Wholly undermining,

Children’s incontestable rights!

Let me ask you,

You British nature and natural order,

Since human establishments deny justice to fathers,

Where may British fathers find genuine solutions?

Let me seriously ask you,

You British mountains and gorges!

Let me ask you, you British seas and rivers,

Lakes and ponds –floods and lochs,

Roads and streets, hamlets and villages,

Monuments and graves of British forefathers,

Those who pioneered justice systems,

The system that is currently giving way

To greedy people’s powerful sway,

Those who abuse public trusts,

Leaving British fathers in utter dismay -

Where might the British fathers and kids

Find a lasting, just solution,

To their ever-ignored sufferings,

Let me ask you, you British Isles!

By Saddened British Dad! January 19, 2013

Wednesday, 9 January 2013

January 09, 2013

Dear Readers,

This is also an invitation that was posted on Face book about a year ago by this very blogger. However I believe that all responsible adults have got moral obligation and responsibility of protecting the rights of Children. To make this happen, all are sincerely welcomed to suggest the best way forward to stop such injustices from continuing to happen to Scottish/UK Children and fathers.

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Fathers-and-Childrens-Cry-for-Justice-and-Fairness-Scotland/341860399171691

January 09, 2013
Denboba Natie

The importance of Father's in the healthy development of Children and Educational attainment (essential resources),

January 09, 2013

1. How absence of a loving father can wreck a child's life: New study shows relationship with both parents is crucial (By Fiona Macrae, 14 June 2012)

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2158671/Love-father-contributes-childs-development-mother-study-claims.htmlhttp:

2. https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/usermanuals/fatherhood/chaptertwo.cfm

3. The Role of the Father in Child Development

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Role-Father-Child-Development/dp/047040549X

4, http://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Role-Father-Child-Development/dp/0471231614

5. Understanding Fatherhood: A review of recent Research, http://www.men-care.org/sites/menengage/files/themes/files/menengage_web/understanding-fatherhood.pdf

6. The Effects of Father Involvement: An Updated Research Summary of the Evidence Inventory © Centre for Families, Work & Well-Being, University of Guelph 2007
http://fira.ca/cms/documents/29/Effects_of_Father_Involvement.pdf

7. The Importance of Fathers

(Published on June 23, 2011 by Ditta M. Oliker, Ph.D. in The Long Reach of Childhood) http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-long-reach-childhood/201106/the-importance-fathers

8. The role of father involvement in children’s later mental health
(Eirini Flouri*, Ann Buchanan, 22, July 2002) Department of Social Policy and Social Work, University of Oxford, Barnett House, 32 Wellington Square, Oxford OX1 2ER, UK
http://www.richel.org/brokenlink/PDF/flouri.pdf

9. Parenting and outcomes for children
(Thomas G. O’Connor and Stephen B.C. Scott) Kings College London, 2007http://www.jrf.org.uk/sites/files/jrf/parenting-outcomes.pdf

10.The role parents in Educational attainment-and the roles of fathers in supporting these,

http://www.jrf.org.uk/publications/aspirations-attitudes-educational-attainment-roundup?gclid=CLzl0_iJ2rQCFXDLtAod2DAA6g

These and others numerous incontestable Scientific Researches are seriously ignored by the law enforcing authorities here in a free land where public appointees undermine the ethos of Children's rights! This must be revisited appropriately and the rights of Children need to be prioritised always!!

Denboba Natie

January 09, 2013

Tuesday, 8 January 2013

UK's Children's Rights Organisations & information on Inconsistency of UK's law with Regard to rights of fathers after Divorce.

Denboba Natie (January 08, 2013)

There are numerous organisations working to protect the rights of Children in the UK with little outcome. My strong believe is unshakable on that Children have got legal rights to be independently represented where their needs must be priority at all times.

Promoting Children's rights in the UK and Worldwide web site provides with comprehensive information pertaining this.
http://www.childrenslegalcentre.com/?gclid=CN2lp8ba2bQCFQzKtAodmzIA1g

Father’s rights breached by mother 'too upset’ to let him see children,

http://www.dad.info/divorce-and-separation/fathers-rights-and-law/fathers-rights-to-see-their-children-law-in-the-uk

Information on father's rights in the UK and an ongoing debate on this contentious matter!
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/law-and-order/9424060/Fathers-rights-breached-by-mother-too-upset-to-let-him-see-children.html

Children win legal right to see both parents after divorce,

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/politics/9058018/Children-win-legal-right-to-see-both-parents-after-divorce.html

Fathers finally get equal access rights to children. So why now?

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2012/jun/13/fathers-rights-overlooked-law-welcome

Access law change means children will have legal right to see both parents after divorce,
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2228410/Access-law-change-means-children-legal-right-parents-divorce.html
Queen's Speech: Fathers To Get Greater Rights To See Children After Break-Ups,
http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2012/05/09/queens-speech-fathers-to-get-rights-to-see-children-after-breakups_n_1502841.html

There are numerous others organisations- all of which making little or no positive differences to the lives of Children and their fathers to date!! In particular in Scotland the situation is getting out of touch!! Blatantly abusing her/his public position, one person is allowed to erroneously decide on the fate of very little children at their very tender ages in mother's favour. The mothers are also advised by the curators/reporters and some times judges to badmouth the fathers of their estranged kids and at times practically teach them that they don't need their father in their lives.

The system should make the interests and the needs of the Children their ultimate priority, not the estranged couples' for whatever reasons, which is the case currently. To make the system fair, just, unbiased and workable, it must change unconditionally!!

Denboba Natie

January 8, 2013

Saturday, 5 January 2013

My Precious Daughter as she Grew and Developed in Pictures:-

My Album since I was 3/4 month Part I.
Daddy puts me to bed, having a good time my Aquarium Music on, Teddy Bears give me Company!

Talking to my Daddy!

My First pair of Shoes Daddy bought me from Glasgow August/September 2005

After a very hard day, I'm relaxing at night!

What does my pair of New Shoes Smell and taste as?

My daddy always makes me laugh, but CWC to respects few people's decisions took him away from me for the time being!!

He talks to me like a grown up kids when I was a wee one but we can communicate effectively!

Daddy makes me talk/laugh when he feeds me and when he does all activities!! I also respond my daddy's talk always with happiness and don't usually cry with my daddy although this isn't always guaranteed!!

Look at how I'm talking with my daddy!! But the Scottish CWC for the moment has taken these all joys away from me!! The Courts entertain the hatred of Curators and some Judges making the system unfair!

My daddy and I understand each other since I was just a wee baby!

Another happy moment with my daddy!!

My daddy's Uni pal visited me for the first time with a lot of presents!

My First Xmas!! Hooray!!

I'm with my toys at home!

Wee game before I go to my own bed and a talk to daddy!!

Friday, 4 January 2013

The Cries of Fathers in Modern Britain!

September 2011, By DK

Meaningless to say how much you’re meant to me as nothing can rightly express,

You and your daughterly love remains buried inside my soul until justice prevail.

Precious memories you added to my life with your daughterly love and tenderness

Reverberates as strong as powerful hurricanes!

Especial moments we’ve shared as loving father and caring daughter,

Cuddling and reassuring you whenever you felt frightened and confused by the situations here and there,

Introducing you to the fact of life in the world and the challenge it entails,

Offering you an important and fatherly guidance and direction to make you victorious.

Uncompromisingly honest advice I would like you to listen to, to be confident and productive citizen,

Showing you how to maximize your all round potential without limitation!

Devastated your dad as I can’t do these all without your presence in my life,

Appalled by the vile conspiracy and ugly campaign waged against me despite my genuine concern for your safety and my right to be a part of yourself,

Undermining the only truth and reality I tell as they chose covering it up with made up lies,

Gone Justice and truth for good, leaving me in extreme bewilderment,

Having damaging affect on my belief in essence of humanity,

Tortured I remain in a democratic land as my suffering deepens Psycho-emotionally.

Excluded from the fruits of justice as I and you are systematically ignored as all legitimized your abuses,

Relentless agony I undergo as I only know what has and is happening to my little princess.

Extremely eager your loving and caring dad to see you growing, developing and protected,

Never surrendering to injustices imposed on you and him because he can’t and doesn't know how to lie and pretend,

Appalling decision that is imposed on both of us that neither can be justifiable nor true,

Reckless and unbalanced actions of those who are involved in protecting you,

Inexcusable mistake they make by embellishing their actions with falsified allegations,

Eerie… remains the way they perceive and justify reality until justice prevails!!

(For UK’s dads who are erroneously judged & deprived of their rights of having contacts with their kids)

By DN, September 2011, Scotland

(Loving and Caring Dad Forever!)

January 4, 2013

There are numerous charities, voluntary and government led organisations dealing with issues of Children in Scotland and wider UK. Some of these from others many include the following:-

Action for Children
http://www.actionforchildren.org.uk/?gclid=COnZtezIzrQCFXHLtAodTVoA5w

Fair Play For Children
http://www.fairplayforchildren.org/index.php

Children in Scotland
http://www.childreninscotland.org.uk/

Children's Hospice Association Scotland
http://www.chas.org.uk/

Parenting Across Scotland
http://www.parentingacrossscotland.org/about-us/our-partnership.aspx

Scottish Burned Children's Club
http://www.theburnsclub.org.uk/

Bernardo's
http://www.barnardos.org.uk/what_we_do/who_we_are/scotland.htm

Children and young people's Organisation
http://www.equalityhumanrights.com/legal-and-policy/inquiries-and-assessments/inquiry-into-disability-related-harassment/support-organisations/#children

NSPCC UK
http://www.nspcc.org.uk/

The National Child-minding Association
http://www.ncma.org.uk/default.aspx

Dear readers/visitors-

I highly suggest and appreciate if you could kindly forward any information related with Scottish and UK wide children.

Best Regards and Wishes for 2013!

Denboba Natie

Wednesday, 2 January 2013

The UK/Scotland systems of Children Welfare Hearing Courts' (CWHC) must genuinely address the Needs of Children and stop Discrimination against Men!!

January 2, 2013

Dear Readers,

In the UK, the rights of Children and fathers---- Post Divorce/Separation is increasingly muddled, if it's not turning to become the tragedy of 21st Century where the UK's noble civilisation is going backward to the early 19th century where men used to leave their wives in a Chastity Belt (in an erroneous believe that they could control their promiscuity) during the first world war. The stark contrast is becoming reality for UK's separated/divorced men with varying magnitudes and degrees with relation to the child father contacts. I'm not generalising and putting in the same cubicle -the responsible mothers who prioritise the needs of their children's and allow them to enjoy child-fatherly relationships post-separation/divorce, by creating a positive atmosphere with their fathers. The UK currently needs more of such exceptionally responsible mothers.

An absolute power given to all mothers for virtue of being a mother/woman (regardless of their background that might be rather risky to the kids involved) the UK's noble Child Welfare hearing systems became increasingly biased!! There are serious risks that the mothers who neither think about the fact that the long term effect of depriving the Children contacts with their beloved fathers might have-as they are mostly driven by vindictive rages, attitudes and believes-are groomed to do more harm to their kids . The actions of the mothers that are tacitly validated http://www.deltabravo.net/cms/plugins/content/content.php?content.302 by the law enforcing agencies those who on most occasions claim that they have learnt lessons after the kids are permanently damaged or killed by one of the irresponsible parents, the crime which isn't exclusive to men.

Logically, as there are a very few evil fathers to their kids, this is also the case with mothers. The unsettling reality was seen and the prejudices against men (that proclaims men are always violent) is proving wrong time and again although law enforcers preferred to be often oblivious. When a mother slaughtered her 3 kids in Edinburgh in 2010 in an abhorring manner, (http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-edinburgh-east-fife-12663965 to hurt the loving and caring dad, the law enforcers didn't take appropriate action in time.The only slogan of Child protection agencies after such unsettling crime was committed- was attempting to justify the unjustifiable claiming that the mother did so due to 'diminished responsibility-thus locking the mother up for some time in a Psychiatric hospital for few weeks or months and return her to normal prisons from where she will be released after perhaps few years under the pretext of the above slogan) http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2011/apr/27/mother-jailed-16-years-children.

If men commit such heinous crimes against own kids, its is automatically regarded as the violent nature of men attributed to such a crime!! Although such abhorring crimes committed against kids time and again, it however hasn't been exclusive to men http://www.trutv.com/library/crime/notorious_murders/women/marybeth_tinning/index.html!! The history time and again shows that there have been both women and men who have been out of order to commit such diabolic crimes against their own children and others vulnerable groups of society....at large. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2192020/Mother-killed-decapitated-son-2-stabbing-death.html!! Regardless the sex of culprit the crime is the same http://www.wfaa.com/news/local/Baby-killer-mom-found-working-in-area-Walmart-165199856.html.And there are numerous recorded evidences showing how women inhumanely slaughter their kids for variety of reasons; http://www.canadiancrc.com/Infanticide-Women_Who_Kill_Their_Babies.aspx and here is another information, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Infanticide

Despite these irrefutable and inescapable facts, the UK system is also designed in such a way that it treats fathers less favourably -suddenly considering them threats to their kids (once they are separated/divorced) without any evidence and cross-checking for the validity of futile falsification and vile fabrications the most irresponsible mothers involved with anti-men curators, lawyer, judges and others in the system who don't want to see the other part of the stories-create.

In the middle of such injustices and muddles, the prime victims always remain Children whose voices are often unheard and justices is not being served on their behalf under various pretexts and numerous fruitless court appointments. As a result of such sad sagas, in their tender ages, the Children are left with enduring and life long wounds that might not heal easily if it isn't addressed in time! The curators and the judges on numerous occasions don't seem caring and concerned at all. As the Children are left in darkness- so is the likelihood of their futurity. This is the reality of the current UK Child welfare hearing courts impose on Kids and separated dad on most occasions.

There are ample researches supporting my argument as to how the children under such situation are more likely to develop a life long mental health difficulty, personality disorder, less achieving in schools and universities and the drop out rates among such group is so high compared to those whose separation of their parents goes smoothly. It seems to this blogger that the current system lacks ability to critically look into these very important demands the business they are involved requires.

Thus, the current UK's CWH courts' systems are totally unfair and they need to change for the best of Children firstly and for all humanity at large.The system also obliviously violates the rights of fathers and the kids as it doesn't genuinely translate the law into practice. I think the essence of its establishment shouldn't be undermined by the most irresponsible and benefit monger lawyers, curators, reporters and at times judges who took the Law into their hands to make it the Empire of their personal business, making Children the most victims in their endless process.

I am a strong believer of mothers love and I never imagine in my life seeing Children deprived of their rights to have contacts with their mothers at any suitable places under whatsoever circumstances (post separation/divorce) unless there is tangible and credible risk for the safety of kids involved. If the risk is thought to be real, there must be an arranged contacts under observation. This is a natural rights for kids and to both mothers and fathers equally. The same rule must apply to fathers regardless of any grievances and discontents the parents might have, if the system to maintain the integrity of noble justices system this land (UK) had had cherished for several generations and centuries. The UK's System is noble and the implementation is not walking the walk of 21st century, therefore it must change!!

I think the UK government, the Society and the whole spectrum of public and private personalities need to safeguard the rights of the children primarily without any prejudices that takes place in most UK's Children Welfare Hearing (CWH) courts where fathers are automatically treated less favourably and unfairly!!

DN,

What might 2013 holds for UK's Separated/Divorced Dads in general, for Scottish Dads in Particular?

January 01, 2013

I wish all UK's Dads and Children those who are erroneously denied contact with their dads- the Best of Luck for 2013. I hope this year will bring us all reasonable change and be the Year of justice for UK's Children and separated/divorced dads who are unjustifiably- and at times unlawfully denied access to their kids.

I undoubtedly know how painful this time of the year is for all Dads and kids at my and my daughter's position! I share their sufferings as it's mine too!! I share the sufferings of all Children who are unreasonably disallowed contacts with their loving dads as it is similar with my daughters' ongoing anguish that she never tells to anyone as all involved are systematically cooperating in increasing hers and her dad's anguish. The effect of their unlawful actions will be a life long!! That is why I mourn day and night for the uncertain futurity of my daughter if the situation continues as it's.

Dear UK's Separated/Divorced Dads,

I strongly believe that the Status-Quo in relation to the ways the family courts function in the UK shouldn't be allowed to continue. It's totally biased!! Let alone at UK's standard, it's totally unacceptable at dictatorial regime's court's standards in relation to Children -once their cases are taken to courts and politics uninvolved. There must be a change in the way the Family Courts here in Scotland in particular and the UK in general operate. It doesn't fit for the purposes of Peaceful, Democratic, Civilised and Just Western World. I don't think that just one lawyer or Curator, Reporter or Judge with whatever hidden agendas behind; most of whom obliviously disregard following the legal requirements, are allowed to freely decide on the fates of very little children at their tender ages!! And the Children shouldn't be used as weapons for punishing dads- which is the case in most UK's CW Courts!!

It makes me to feel the saddest person in my life when I critically see how systematically all involved covered up and overlooked the issues the law requires them to raise when they deal with sensitive matters related with Children. It took me a good few years to genuinely realise that most of those involved play game at the expenses of the sufferings of the dads and the untold anguish of often misguidedly and wrongly advised Children to hate their dads (without understanding why).

To affect such abhorring acts against the rights of Children, there is one particular Curator in one of Scotland's CW Court who tirelessly works against men and known for her heinous viciousness whose reputation is worst than that of the regime I fled persecution from 13 years ago. She doesn't bother following the elementary requirements the procedure demands her when she takes up one case to automatically make some £6,000-£12,000 in the first 3-5 months (on single case alone-she might have five- six- ten). Then she requests the judges to stop contact with dads whilst compiling her report for which she asks for an extension of time, time and again. The hearings get postponed on numerous occasions due to Mrs X's repeated requests.

Finally, Mrs X presents her reports after several months (during which time she makes sure that the mothers brainwash their kids against their dads- and she also gets involved in convincing Children that they don't need their dads and their dads might be actually dangerous to them). Mrs X's report is usually full of vulgarism and unwarranted insults against dads (for the future I'll scan and post such a document after getting the necessary consent of individuals involved). Most of Mrs X's report is incomprehensibly unlawful for UK based courts and I wonder why the UK's law regulatory body allows such a person to practice at sensitive area related with Children). Mrs X's report is usually incriminates dads and filled up with unrelated rhetoric involving political, religious, social circumstances of the dads entirely strange to the case. In general, Mr's X comes up with the fabricated crimes of her own version and more importantly unlawfully and unjustifiably blackmailing dads. None of judges ask her why she does so! Rather they support her in the court.

Instead, the Judges praise Mrs X for her good work by reminding the dads how so experienced Mr X is without asking whether she had followed up the requirements the law obliges her to adhere to. For instances, Mrs X is legally required to observe the kids with both parent before she makes such a report. However, in most cases Mrs X overlooks this part by simply observing mum and kids, she makes her final obvious decision- which is disallowing contact based on her and her collaborator -the irresponsible mothers' version of fabricated allegations. Although the judge has got obligation if the other party raises about this fact, this hardly has happened. Sadly, time and again the judges din't bother, but happily agree with Mrs X to disallow the contact. The appeal continues for years!! The money making system for the empire continues!!

From my experience which is still ongoing since end of the end of 2009, I learnt the very viciousness of humanity to fellow human being!! In particular continually torturing children at their very tender ages will be morally wrong and politically incorrect. This is what I'm seeing happening in front of my eyes. This is not a fictitious narratives. Rather it's the reality under which the UK's separated/Divorced dads including this writers live. The irony here is that most African's, most Latin Americans, Far East and Asians mostly don't restrict post separation or divorce contacts with dads. Therefore, when I talk to some of friends from these regions they can't comprehend that I'm saying and never believe me that is the case until I take time to convince them.

The ethos, the principles and the ultimate reason for which Children Welfare Courts are established is to safeguard the welfare of Children. To protect their rights! This is not entirely the case at the moment!! Although I don't deny the fact that there are genuinely honest judges, reporters, Curators and Solicitors, however, there are still serious matters to be looked into- if the system is to meet the standard of the Civilised world in the 21st Century. The current UK's case is very far from the above!

May Justice prevail on behalf of Victims!!

Denboba Natie